In the book Extreme Ownership, Jocko Willink and Leif Babin outline the dimensions that a leader must balance in order to be effective1:

  • confident but not cocky
  • courageous but not foolhardy
  • competitive but a gracious loser
  • attentive to details, but not obsessed by them
  • strong but have endurance
  • a leader and follower
  • humble but not passive
  • aggressive not overbearing
  • quiet not silent
  • calm but not robotic
  • logical but not devoid of emotions
  • close with the troops but not so close that one becomes more important than another or more important than the good of the team; not so close that they forget who is in charge.
  • able to execute Extreme Ownership, while exercising decentralized command

The idea here being that if a leader leans too far on any of the scales they will fall out of balance an not be effective.

1. Willink, J. & Babin, L. Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win. (St. Martin’s Press, New York, 2015).